gentle femdom

30 Kinky Sex & Bdsm Ideas For a Better Sex Life

 Best Bdsm Ideas -How To Be Kinky

Sex is an innovative articulation of affection and desire and a solid sexual coexistence which takes into consideration experimentation. 

In so far as nobody gets injured, unusual or kinky, taboo sex is, for the most part, good fun and exciting ways to test out new ideas sexually.

It’s beneficial to push limits and conquer fears. Everyone has their hard limits and pushing boundaries can be a sexy way of finding out exactly what your own limits truly are.

We have lots of different kinky bondage ideas & different things to try, below we will detail both fun things as well as a bit more hardcore. You may also find some amazing DIY BDSM techniques and methods that you can use at home. So what does BDSM Mean? Heres is  the proper explanation of BDSM

Our hot BDSM guide will give you an insight into all the kinky things you can do in your relationship from light to sexy to more adventurous, we have you covered in our guide.

We have some extremely kinky ideas, techniques and methods for you to follow from sexy ideas to try on her to rope bondage ideas, best sex positions and getting into the world of BDSM and fully understanding it with it all its kinks and twists and fun.

 

BDSM Ideas Audio Clip

 

 

Click here for Kinky Cam Chats

 

Below you’ll find some incredible ways, tasks, ideas and thoughts for spicing up your sexual kinky lifestyle and having loads of sexy fun where ever you may be whether it be the bedroom or outdoors –

Read our lists below and feel free to comment with more ideas, we love to hear from kinksters.

We have lots of different fetish play ideas for live kinky sexy fun at home or online. Below is also some of our top-rated sexplay cams to spice things up.

The very best of S&M ideas with every twist and scenario you could ever imagine. I am a huge fan of BDSM DIY and when reading through my website you will be able to see that for yourself.

Simple BDSM instructions with rope play, binding, sensation play, impact & object techniques. We have some great examples of kinky sex for you to experiment and test out in the bedroom or online with a long-distance partner you are perhaps datings.

These are just some of the top and best kinky sex ideas to try on your woman, we have made a huge list of suggestions below that we hope will guide you into a far more adventurous time in the bedroom.

You can use nipple clamps or exercise and test out new bondage positions using some homemade DIY suggestions that we have on the site.

Enjoy Bdsm Ideas –  Kinky Things to do – Best Sex Ideas

Exploring fun, hot freaky sexual things to try in bed, how to be kinky, creative and explore new wild sexual ideas. These are fun ideas to spice up things in the bedroom.

From dirty, naughty sexting ideas for him/her to dirty phone chats and video chats, to watching porn together. Explore our 30  Plus ways below for kinky sex.

The best fantasies for sex play with your partner with different things to try with many kinky scenarios. Some of these top tips can be used both in and outdoors depending on your risk levels.

They are fun, kinky and creative play ideas for both seasoned, extreme as well as light players just dabbling. These Ideas for BDSM and bondage whether it be self-bondage, male bondage or any other type are taken from our own experiences in the online and at-home playtimes.

We hope you will be able to use some of the BDSM tips we have listed on this site and put them into practice, from just dabbling your foot in the water to more creative or extreme BDSM and bondage methods.

No matter what entry-level you are we have some super amazing homemade techniques that can be fun, creative and great fantasy experiences.

bdsm objects, bdsm tips

 

Our list will give you some top BDSM things to try, our techniques and methods have been tried and tested and enjoyed by many, we do like the creative side and thinking outside the box but we do have some great moves that are favourites with everyone.

Some of our tricks and suggestions can be explored even deeper and can bring out the kinkier side in any fetishist or kink player.

We have included some top examples of what we will use in an S&M session, making it fun, safe and enjoyable for all. From bed bondage to kinky things to do with your submissive, to restraints, our list of BDSM activities is sure to push any submissives boundaries.

From the easy and light suggestions to the more extreme hardcore, there is tips and suggestions for everyone at every level. So if you are trying this for the first time be sure to read our full guide before you delve in,  test out our examples for foreplay, try different scenarios, learn about homemade restraints and how to make them and use them. 

You may also be interested in trying sexual role-playing character ideas where you both go into different roleplays for the duration of the session.

No need to worry anymore about how to get int BDSM, you can also use our guide for stress positions. Get ready to read the best kinky sex ideas to try on your man.

The Kinksters Bible to wild, filthy sex with amazing orgasms

 

  1. Send Each Other Dirty Text Messages / Kinky Dominatrix Ideas 101 get him going.

Whether it is by text or email, sending each other dirty messages can be a fun and sexy way to explore each other’s limits.

No matter what type of text message you send from the flirty to the extremely x rated hardcore message, exploring each other by text messages can be a good way to explore sexual ideas and fantasies.

From texting each other what you want to do to each other, to what colour of panties you are wearing to how wet or hard you are.

This can be exciting. It can also be used to give each other directions of what to do to yourself ie masturbation instructions via text message.are. This is a great idea for kinky things to do to your submissive

 

sexting cam girls, sexy cam girl

 

 

2. Send Naked Pictures of yourself

Send him/her your naked pictures via email or text message perhaps doing something naughty, pose in different positions, perhaps using sex toys or experimenting with other household items. Send the naked picture and show him what he has to look forward to when they get home.  This is one of the BDSM activities that is very popular

naked sexting girls, sex text girls, sms sex

 

3.Initiate Sex Outwith the bedroom 

If you are sitting in the bedroom and start kissing on the sofa, then instead of heading straight to the bedroom, how about trying to move to the kitchen, shower, bath, stairs or anywhere else.

You could be even more adventurous and head out in the car to a secluded place or even outdoors in the woods. Foreplay can be prolonged and lots of teasing can make for an excellent climax, the riskier the better.

Check out our – list-of-20-popular-BDSM-fetish-acronyms-that-will-help-you-understand-the-terminology/

4. Rope Bondage or Handcuffs

Yes tie your partner up and render them helpless, using ropes, cable ties, handcuffs or anything else you can find to tie their hands and legs together. At this point, they are helpless and you can tease them like mad, from forced wanking, milking, edge play for him to edge play for her oral, licking and not letting them cum.

Use sex toys, and soft strokes to heighten it. Try different kinky things from fingering to anal, to facesitting, 69ing and more. You can even Learn ALL of his erogenous zones by exploring your partner at this point. Roleplay ideas is another popular way to go(more on that further down)rope bondage, kinky sex play, hog ties

5.Having sex in front of other people

Some people love the idea of being watched and voyeurism, perhaps you want to try dogging where people can watch you having sex in a public place, or perhaps you want to book some people to come to your house and watch you with your partner, or you could think about testing out swinging.

Either way, the whole idea is about kink and experimenting with new sexual ideas and fantasies, so if you want to be watched as you give your wife amazing oral sex, or you want to watch another guy lick your wife out, then this is definitely one to try to heighten all areas of sexual play.

Some people prefer the fantasy of this one, however, some do enjoy voyeurism as well as threesomes and orgies.

More Kinky Mistress Cam Chats Click here

6. Watch Porn Tubes, Films Together

Picking a porn video to watch together can be a real horny way to get you both in the mood. Watch the video and then re-enact it or having sex and exploring each other while it is on.

Watching a different kind of porn from what you would both usually watch, is another good way to try out new sexual fantasies and ideas. Exploring, each other’s bodies, teasing each other and prolonging orgasm.

porn images, porn tube, watchign porn together

7. A Sexy Slow Massage

Massaging each other’s bodies slowly and insensitive places can be a real turn-on. It’s all about what areas you touch gently and slowly and having them relaxed, you can even talk dirty to them through this.

It’s all about that end result – The happy ending . You can put so many twists on this one from

1.Orgasm Control

2.Using sex toys and objects

3. Teasing them with your body as you stroke them slowly.

Rubbing food on them and licking it off –

8.Sexy – Erotic Roleplays – Kinky Nurse, HeadMistress, Naughty Schoolgirl/boy- Super Bdsm Ideas

This one is very popular, I mean who doesn’t enjoy a bit of roleplay. From the naughty schoolgirl to the strict headmistress/master.

How about some domination/BDSM with Mistress and slave or Master and slut. No matter what type of roleplay you play out, it can be a lot of fun especially if you dress up and enact it out properly.

Perhaps there is a doctor, Gynaecologist or a nurse for penis inspections that needs to examine you. You can truly explore different fantasies with roleplaying. Some really get right into this others just play about.

 

roleplay pictures, submissive girls, girl wearing ball gag

Foot play is by far one of the most popular fetishes and it can be done in so many different ways from foot suffocation to foot play and footjobs to massage, tickle, toe sucking, crushing, dirty smelly feet to squeaky clean feet, every fetishist have their own idea and kinks for this type of fetish –

Check out the fetish cams section for some top fetish girls who enjoy this type of kink

9.Bathing and showering together

Washing each other in the shower or bath, especially when using soap and making them slippery and bubbly, can be a real turn on and very sensual.

You can turn this one whatever way you want from sensual and teasing to kinky and dirty. You decide where you want to go with that.

sexy couple showerign together, sex in shower pictures

10. Sex Toys – Household Objects

Teasing your partner with sex toys, dildos, vibrators and anal beads especially the ones that vibrate and stimulate you both is another hot kinky way to have fun in the bedroom.

If you don’t have any sex toys, you can use your imagination and gather some things from around the house to use. Play guess what I am using on you, if they get it right they get a reward.

11.-Blindfold Each other

having a blindfold put on you and letting your partner do whatever he wants to you can be another exciting sexual kink, just letting someone else take that control and you have no idea what is coming next is a huge turn on.

 

12- Little bit of spanking

Over the knee, spanking can be really erotic, being spanked with a paddle, hairbrush, or hand over each cheek. Remember it does not have to be painful, spanking can be gentle and erotic or painful and pleasurable.

Some people prefer the pain side of it as it gets the blood flowing and endorphins going. You can use some roleplay with this one.

spanking, spanking picture, red hot bottom, over the knee spanking

We hope you are enjoying reading through our good sex ideas/Bdsm Techniques &Ideas and Kinky sex Fantasies

13 Have phone sex with  each other

Yep call them at work or when they are at the gym or whenever, surprise them, tell them what you have in store for them when they get home, describe in detail what you are wearing, how you are touching yourself right now preparing for them, how wet you feel and how much you want to cum together.

Be as explicit as possible and as kinky and imaginative as possible – Kinky sex on the phone can be a massive turn on and keep your partner on the edge all day thinking about it.

phonsex girl, phonechat girls,

14. Make him take your panties to work with him

Give him a pair of your panties that you have worn or not worn and text him instructions of what to do with them, describe in detail to him when you had them on, how you touched them and came in them and now give him directions on what you want him to do with them.

Demand he goes to the toilets at work and carries out any instructions you give him, from smelling to licking them. Some people make their partner wear their panties to work… how kinky are you??

15. Watch Yourself In The Mirror

Being able to watch your partner going down on you via the mirror can be an amazing experience. Men are very visual and enjoy watching porn and looking at naked images, so watching via a full-length mirror can be a massive turn on to them

mirror selfies, sex infront of mirror pictures

16. Get a  copy of the Kamasutra

Try unique sex positions, experiment with new kinky, wild sexual positions. Positions like the bridge -the rider, the eagle, the clasp and hundreds more. Trying and inviting new sexy positions into your sex life can take you both to new heights and closeness.

kamasutra picture, kamasutra sex ideas

17. Record yourself having sex on Video

Get that camera rolling and record yourselves having some wild, hot freaky sex. Then play it back, be the director of your own private movie.

 

18.Peeing on Each Other

This can be found more in the taboo section, but watersports while having sex with each other can be a real pleasure for some people. Golden showers have been around forever.

Most of my own subs/slaves want to be peed on at the end of a session. Piss play is just as hot and sexy for piss lovers as BDSM and Bondage are for BDSM lovers.

Channel 4’s ‘Great British Sex Survey’, it came in at number 9 in the UK’s top sexual fetishes

 

19.Flaunt yourself and have sex on Webcam in front of other people

With hundreds of adult sites to hang out where cam to cam sex chats is all the rage, then this is up there with one of the most popular sexy ways to spice up any sex life.

You can even leave adds or classifieds on adult posting sites looking for other couples to watch you as you watch them, let them direct you.

Better still there are adult cam sites out there who will pay you by the minute for having sex live. So make some money and have some fun what’s not to like about that. check this out -Nothing beats cam to cam online

 

Letting Your Husband Shave Your Vagina Is The BEST Foreplay

 

20. Shaving each other’s private parts –

Some people find this a real turn on, shaving their partner’s pubic areas can really get you off to a good start in the sex department. Purposely teasing each other slowly.

It is a really intimate way. Getting between your legs to get as close as possible to you. Knowing how turned on and wet you are getting.

21.Hot And Cold Sensations

This can be done when one of you is blindfolded

1 Run an ice cube over their sensitive areas ie nipples, pussy lips, penis, balls and inside the ass.

2. Heat up some chocolate or some other warm tasty things and cover his dick in it the heat will get him going then start to suck him, vice versa if its male to female does the same around her vagina area.

Then swap this around with some freezing cold water again. You can also use candle wax as you use ice cubes at the same time.

22. The guessing games – Get it right you get Rewarded – Porn sex games

You can do many things with this one I will list them below to give you a few ideas to get you started.

  • Slowly write something on his body with your fingers just a word and let him guess what you have written if he gets it right he gets a reward if he gets it wrong he must be punished or humiliated.
  • Like above but use an item from within the bedroom or room you are in, ie, a brush, pen, feather, duster, you can use just about anything. and tell them to guess what you are using to tickle them.
  • Write something sexual down on a piece of paper, perhaps something you want to have done to you or to do to them. If they guess it right then they are rewarded with it.

 

23. Medical Play-Medical Fetishism

Again this can be found under roleplaying, this is when you become doctors and nurses and give a medical examination. This could involve an anal examination, breathplay, medical devices.

Examinations are usually done on the Anus, Urethra and Vagina. Medical fetish is a very popular request for dominatrixes. The patient could be gaged, blindfolded and restrained to heighten this.

medical fetish, medical fetishes, medical fetish picture

 

 24- Go To A Sex Shop Together

Head on over to a sex shop and purchase a new sexy outfit, lingerie or an amazing new sex toy to use in your kinky sex play, perhaps if you can touch each other when in the shop – Go for risky

sex shop picture, sex shop pictures

 

25-Masturbate Infront of each other.

Get naked and lay in front of your partner and tell them you want them to watch you as you masturbate, rub your hands all over your body and masturbate slowly, prolonging for as long as possible. Check out 20 ideas to masturbate

 

26. Get a Vibrator with a remote 

I have used these as well as the electrical ones and can say they are great fun. Make your partner insert the vibrator into themselves then head out clubbing where you can press the remote to make it vibrate when he is standing at the bar, talking to friends or even as he heads to the toilet.

You are in control of the vibrations. Can be used on both male and female, you could do it at the same time when you are out.

Sexual Fantasies can be Amazing try and act them out 

 

27. Be The  Sex Slave For the Evening

You will become the sex slave to your partner for the evening and must carry out all sexual demands made on you, including outfits to wear.

You will be collared and will do whatever the Master/Mistress demands sexually —  Get ready for a night of uncontrollable racy, wild sex, your partner is the boss for the night and they can pick you to do whatever they desire. – Check out sex slave ideas

28- Play Footsie Under the Table at Restaurant

Imagine you are at a restaurant and she kicks her high heel off and starts rubbing your penis/crotch with her nylon foot, stroking it up and down? Licking her lips and giving you an indication of what the dessert maybe!

29. Sex In The Hot tub/Sauna

If you use your local sports club and have a hot tub, put your hand into the water and start to rub his dick or her vagina, do this if you are in the sauna, swimming or steam room.

This is very exciting and a huge turn on. Watch the reaction on their face as they get horny and want more.

 

30 Sex in A Public Place

This is great for those who enjoy the risky play, find somewhere public and touch each other the risk of getting caught can really heighten sex and can be far more exciting than just another romp in the bedroom.

Remember this one does violate some sexual laws, but if you are careful it is really possible to pull it off.

Choose a place that is public but quiet ie a bathroom with a lock on the door, a rooftop, an escalator where you can pause the door, a hot tub when no one else is in it, mountaintop, balcony, behind bin sheds –

You get the picture I hope! It is still outdoors and it is still risky and oh so much fun. Head back over to our livebdsmcams.net – site

girl in bondage, hogtie picture, rope bondage,

 

According to the dictionary, kinky is something that deviates greatly from the sexual norm and is therefore attractive to a lot of different types of people.

Usually, things like leather and whips are used, so actually it can be just like fetish things.

If you also love kinky things yourself and want to try something a little different from the straightforward vanilla side then our kinky chat rooms are for you.

kinky girls

The females on our website love kink& sex and that in itself is a very attractive thing.

They do not adhere very much to the usual standard, they just want to be something else. Give and experience something different than on all other webcam shows they have had.

That is why they are also registered here because on our website we recommend they can find men who are at least as kinky as they are. They are really looking forward to it and are anxiously waiting for a horny sex show with like-minded people.

They are wet, willing and are making plans for new kinky sex all day long. Maybe a whip?

Possibly some spanking?

Perhaps cuffs & blindfolds or  a bullwhip

Who knows what is waiting for you?

In any case, we know that if you have a sex show with these females, you will come out like a different person. One with a very exciting experience.

The women are horny and no longer want to lie in their bed alone. Can you handle that kinky side? Do you have the courage to dive into bed with women like this?

Then come quickly and find one that appeals to you, you will experience the night of your life, we would like to guarantee that. Just find out for yourself how wonderful it is to go on a kinky cam show with a gorgeous woman!

 

kinky chats

 

Kinky Sex – What is that exactly?

Older people, in particular, are increasingly looking for a new kick to make their sex life extra interesting. Often certain attributes are added, such as dildos, whips and handcuffs. Kinky sex actually means: deviating from the ‘normal’ sex path. A number of denominators fall under kinky sex. 

For example, you have SM, BDSM, BONDAGE, but also pee sex, foot sex and anal sex.

Our Website you will find people who like to deviate from the path with other people and pursue a certain fantasy.

For years they have struggled with certain feelings that they could not get rid of with their partner. For almost all types of fetishes, there is always someone who has the same feelings.

Through our search engine, you can easily search for fantasies and sex characteristics. That way you can find someone quickly with exactly the same wishes.

Whether you are looking for a sex date, a physical sex appointment, or kinky sex contact, through cam sex, telephone sex or a sex chat, or even at home with your partner there is always someone looking for something similar. Nothing ventured, nothing gained!

What kind of kinky sex is there?

The kinky sex world is very broad. There are hundreds of concepts that fall under the name “kinky sex”. That is because every person is attracted and gets excited by a different kind of fantasy. One loves feet, the other loves pee sex

The following concepts fall under the basis of kinky sex: submissive sex ideas and when to use them.

Extreme sex, for example, torture, stiletto heels, torture, but also the softer side such as with SM and BDSM, which involves a certain dominant position and where you use dominance during sex.

kinky roleplay

You also have a number of fetishes, such as the preference for fat women, older women, small women, Asian women, et cetera.

Sometimes you know very well what you want because you have been doing this for years or have had a fantasy for years.

Occasionally it is also nice to be open to someone else’s imagination, especially if there are not many hooks and eyes here. Footsex, for example, is ideal to start with, because you don’t have to buy any attributes for this.

What is a bullwhip in BDSM?

A Bullwhip is a long braided whip, often made of leather. It, therefore, consists of one long strand. They are often used in shows where someone (for example) throws a cigarette from someone else’s mouth.

bullwhip, picture of bullwhip

These whips are also used in the (BD) SM game. With this, the Master beats his Slave or Slave on the buttocks, legs or back, which creates considerable stimuli of pain for the person in question, which in turn stimulates them enormously. It, therefore, falls under the more extreme form of SM.

With soft SM, this type of item is often not used. People who love these kinds of extreme things do not always have a Master or Slave at their disposal.

They kind of people are also on our site. They are looking for a real kinky cam show where they can live it up completely, or who want to show off what the bullwhip can do as you watch them.

If you are looking for exciting and pretty extreme sex partners, then you are clearly in the right place.

Women who want to feel the leather whip on their buttocks, so that it starts to stretch and the pain shoots through their skin and through their flesh. Or Mistresses who are keen to make you their subject.

 

kinky couple sex cams

 

Masters or mistresses, slaves and slaves, also said want to make a sex appointment and are therefore registered on our site. Come in quickly and find that hard-handed partner that you can enjoy on a sex tour.

There are more than enough dates to make, so choose one that appeals to you and make contact today with that wonderful man or woman who is ready to give you a hand. Or of course to get along.

BDSM? What Is It? Audio Clip Explains

Anal sex for Kinky Bedroom ideas

Butt fucking is also known as anal sex. The principle is very simple. The man’s penis goes straight into the woman’s ass.

This results in anal penetration, hence the second name, anal. Sufficient fluid or lubricant is needed to properly butt the penis into the anus. If it is too dry, it hurts a lot.

 

Mostly, agents such as vaseline are used for this, with which can be used to thoroughly lubricate the penis and also the anus. The inside of the anus will also have to be rubbed well, for proper guidance inside.

Often men first have normal vaginal sex so that their penis is nice and wet and moist, which makes it easier to slide into the woman’s anus.

Women who love butt fucking, or anal sex, can also be found on our website.

Our website has all kinds of women of different ages, beliefs, skin and hair colours who yearn for a wonderful sex date with a guy who wants to take them between their buttocks.

Some women have never done that before and are desperately looking for an experienced man who wants to experiment a little with anal. Maybe you are the guy with enough experience? You can view our anal cams section here

If you’re looking for a girl or woman who wants to enjoy your cock in her ass during sex play, sign up today and before you know it you’ve put your delicious penis between those beautiful full buttocks. Or experiment with your own partner but go slowly to start with. Take that chance and slide it in nicely, as long as you keep it moist!

 Kinky Roleplay Ideas, Information & Scenarios

Role-play is a very creative addition to the sexual game that you can play with your partner. During the role-play, you both play someone else.

A good example is a teacher with his naughty student, who must undergo a spanking (spanking) as punishment.

Some people think roleplay is more centred towards the BDSM lifestyle which is not true it can be incorporated into both vanilla as well Bdsm

People often play a role-play because they like to crawl into the skin of another person so that they do not suffer from their own (possible) inhibitions.

Dressing up as a sister or agent – as an example – is also part of it and makes the role play a whole lot more exciting.

Roleplay can be a really good way to test out new sexual ideas and techniques.

If you also find it exciting to dress up and to be a different person, you can try it out at home with your partner or visit one of our live webcam sites. Many of our cam girls have a wardrobe full of costumes.

You could also get your wife/partner to buy some sexy costumes to experiment with and before you know it you will be in a hotel in bed with a busty sister in one very tight short uniform, who would love to spoil her patient because he is so “sick”.

Does this appeal to you? Are you ready for a kinky sex session with role play? If you want to test the waters with roleplay then checkout our roleplay cams section

 

kinky bdsm ideas, sex bdsm couple

 

Masturbation Ideas for Roleplay & Bedroom 
  1. Dress up in something sexy surprise your partner & initiate the roleplay fantasy
  2. Take a bath together and play with each other slowly even better if you have a jacuzzi bath
  3. As above but in the shower
  4. Use objects from around the house to masturbate with using them on your partner and make them guess what you are using
  5. Watch an adult film together – With hundreds of online tube sites you will find something you both like
  6. Shop for new sex toys to use on each other
  7. prolong the orgasm by teasing each other with edge play
  8. If you are more adventurous – Then take the car to a quiet spot and have sex in the car
  9. Masturbate in front of each other  – Mutual masturbation is really erotic
  10. Simultaneous orgasms – Having an orgasm at the exact same time.
  11. Share your darkest fantasies as you are touching each other
  12. Spend time exploring each other bodies, and complementing each other
  13. Introduce some bondage  – Below is some bondage ideas you could introduce to
Bondage Ideas & Suggestions
  1. Tie your partner up with rope and blindfold them and start to touch them slowly and erotically, let them guess what you’re going to do next, You could tie them to the bed or to a chair.
  2.  Use cable ties or handcuffs if you don’t have a rope and again leave them wondering what you will be doing next.
  3. Set the lighting and the mood, perhaps add some candles and introduce some sex toys
  4. Introduce sensory play while your partner is restained
  5. Buy a cage and put your partner in it as you stand outside it pleasuring yourself in front of them
  6. Guys try tit bondage and tie her breasts up
  7. Put his cock in a chastity device or use string or rope to tie his cock and balls.
  8. Tie him up so that he is in doggy style  ( his hands under him and tied0 then try some mild spaning, anal, strapon ice play, ( whatever comes to mind)
  9. Use a ball gag
  10. sit on them and tickle them, you could also make sure they are tied up
  11. Use in restraints make them your very own sex slave
  12. Gag them with your panties
  13. Use homemade DIY restraints  with DIY bondage toys
  14.  

Just a few ideas & suggestions to get you started with some bondage sex and things to try and explore with each other. You could also visit the kinksters chat rooms together and have someone watch you both as you use any of the scenarios from our lists.

As you will be able to tell so far, there are many different things to do in BDSM, as well as things to try but what if you need something more specific?

Many of the ideas and suggestions listed above are pretty generic for use in a femdom session or scenario but what if you need some kinky wife ideas or some activities for gay couples?

The use of BDSM within a sexual relationship between two partners can be fantastic fun.

When in a female domination environment, you will usually not know this person outwith the session which can make it much more difficult to let go of yourself and let things happen naturally.

When in a relationship, however, you trust this person completely so are much more able to let yourselves go and have fun with your BDSM foreplay activities.

KINKY WIFE IDEAS

Many people confuse the word kinky with being extreme. Nothing of the sort. Kinky is actually just a break from the norm or something that is unusual.

Basically anything that isn’t missionary position can be considered to be kinky! So what sorts of things can you do to add some kink?

This is written for the husband being dominated by the wife but obviously it can be swapped around if you are a couple who wish to switch.

  • Tie your partner up. The first thing most people will try to be honest. The beauty is you can use those scarves you have to hand or a belt. It is so simple to find something to use in a pinch. The feeling of being helpless will turn you on, likewise, the power your wife will feel from being totally in control will really give you both a rush

 

  • Spank them. Lie them face down and slap their backside. Start off light till you find the pain level for the spankee. The important thing about spanking is that you both must be in the mood but if you are, spanking is one of the most erotic and fun activities you can do. Having total trust in your wife to spank you without actually hurting you is also important.

 

  • Masturbate in front of you. For almost every man, watching his wife masturbate is a huge turn on but to add some spice to it, she will pleasure herself but you are not allowed to touch yourself.No matter how hard your cock is, no matter how much it aches and throbs or leaks pre-cum, you totally handoff while she uses dildos, vibrators and love eggs on herself.
  • Uses orgasm denial. Works best if you are tied up but you don’t have to be. Basically she teases you, wanks you, sucks you, rubs you etc until you are almost about to orgasm then she stops.  You calm down and she starts again, right until you are about to blow your load and again she stops. She can do this as many times as she wants until she decides to give you permission to shoot your load. The power she will feel from controlling your orgasm, coupled with the intense feeling of relief when you finally get to cum will be intense.
  • Most men love feet and having her make you kiss, lick, caress and massage her feet will give you both an intense thrill and turn you both on.

These may be for husband and wife couples but obviously they can also be suitable if you are a kinky gay couple as well

BDSM ROLEPLAY IDEAS

Everyone loves to roleplay. The chance to step out of yourself and be somebody else is exciting, not to mention perfect for being able to let yourselves go more to enjoy yourselves.

So what sort of roleplay scenarios are there for BDSM? The best that can be done here is to give you an idea

Cruel wife. She gets to play a cruel ballbusting wife while you are the meek, under the thumb husband. As an example, she walks in while you are naked and cleaning and she is unhappy with it.

Depending on what level you are both at in terms of experience and where you wish to go with it she can berate you, call you names (useless, a loser, hopeless, a terrible husband etc) to punishments such as kissing her boots, face slapping etc.

For those in trusting relationships, she can talk about how its “no wonder she fucks other men” to bring cuckolding into your fantasy roleplay.

Strict headteacher. A firm favourite! She wears a tight blouse, knee-length skirt, high heels, stockings etc and you are dressed in shorts or are naked. She can tower over you while you do your homework, act as the headteacher who gives you a spanking or caning for misbehaviour or make you write lines (eg 200 times “I must not misbehave for Miss)

Domineering boss. She is the boss (power dressed) while you are the underling desperate to do a good job and failing, badly. She can berate you, call you names, throw things at you etc, as you scurry about trying to be better at your job

The cop and the prisoner. She plays the tough cop who is interrogating you or has stopped you in the street, you are the criminal who gets the handcuffs slapped on or tied to the chair who has to accept the abuse.

Schoolgirl and the wimpy teacher. Most men have a schoolgirl fetish (a grown woman dressed as a schoolgirl, not actual schoolgirls) and would love to be dominated by one so why not be the teacher who gets bullied by the brat girl in his class?

You can start off by giving her 1 to 1 tutoring and then she takes control and abuses you or blackmails you.

These are just a few ideas to get you started but if you open your imagination and your creative mind, there is no end to the possibilities you can have if you introduce roleplay to your sex ideas.

FUN BONDAGE IDEAS

Bondage is the go-to act for anyone either starting out in the kinky world right up to those with experience. Bondage is so simple and such a turn on it is easy to see why as well. So what ways can bondage be used?

  • Well, obviously you can use scarves or belts to restrain your partner to the bed. Make him helpless as you tease and caress him, bite or slap him.
  • Tie them to a table. Tie their ankles to the table legs then bend them over it and secure their hands to the opposite side of the table. Their ass is now ripe for a spanking or for penetration from behind
  • Tie them to a tree. For those into outdoor bondage fun, you can chain him to a tree (naked or clothed) then joke about leaving him there
  • Secure him to the staircase. If you have one of those staircases with wooden bannisters and room beside it (hallway for example) you can tie him with his arms above his head to it then either tease and torment him or just go about your day, making sure to walk past him and ignore him as much as possible (or gently tap his cheek, slap his arse or his cock when you walk past!)
  • Under the mattress cuffs. A four-point harness that goes under your mattress with two Velcro cuffs for the wrists and two for the wrists. Easy to use, comfortable and unlike conventional cuffs they can be left in place and just tucked out of sight when not in use rather than having to set them up every time you want to play.
  • Spreader bars. Long poles with a 3in chain and ankle cuffs. Coming in various sizes, or adjustable themselves, these keep the legs apart and impossible to be closed. Humiliating for the wearer, good for access to the privates for the Dominant.
EXTREMELY KINKY IDEAS

Ready to push the boundaries and go extreme? Its where the most fun and most erotic and sexually charged activities can be found if you are willing to go there. The excitement and thrill are unmatched.

  • Now you don’t ACTUALLY have to let her fuck other men if that is something neither of you wants to do but you can discuss the idea. She can go into great detail about how she finds other men attractive, what she would do to them, them to her etc. If you are feeling more adventurous she can talk about real people you both know. “You know your workmate Robert? I’d love to suck his dick. I bet its huge” for example. If you are employing sub/Dom then she can talk about how you don’t satisfy her
  • Wank each other when driving. On a deserted road (preferably a motorway) you both pleasure each other. If you are feeling extremely kinky, do it during the day!
  • Use food on each other. We are not talking about some whipped cream here either. Lube up a cucumber and penetrate her with it. Use a carrot in her pussy and one up her arse. Or you can be penetrated with the cucumber.
  • Sex in public. Back seat of a car in a supermarket car park? Changing room of a busy clothes store? The alleyway between buildings? In the woods? There are countless places to have safe sex outdoors. You can be completely secluded but even just the thought that you could be caught will be enough to get you to rock hard and your partner soaking wet
  • Wear vibrating sex toys in public. She has vibrating eggs up her pussy or you have an electric shock collar around your balls and you go out in public to a bust store. For the best fun with this, use remote control toys that your partner has the key fob to control
  • Oral sex in public. For those in BDSM relationships, in a busy restaurant, she can sit reading her menu and then click her fingers discreetly and say she wants to be pleasured. You will need to discreetly slip under the table and go down on her. Obviously you need to pick a restaurant that has table clothes that go all the way down to the floor!

So there you have some more sex fetish ideas that you can try in a relationship rather than in a femdom cams or real-time Domination sex environment.

 

Hopefully, there is something here that you can use in the bedroom (or outside it depending on what one you like!) or at the very least you have read something that gives you a wicked idea for something you wan