Cuckolds will always need to be humiliated
Tag: what is a cuckold
submissive cuckolds and the research that
I’ve done over the years concerning cuckolding and the psychology behind it
part of the reason why I want to do this is that the information that’s
out there on the Internet is very misleading most the time when you look
up cuckolding you’ll end up with some type of sexual video or the information
out there is incorrect and working with men and also couples for several years
now I’ve really come to understand the whole sexual fetish of cuckolding I’ve
written several articles on the topic and the articles have gained quite a few
comments and I get emails on a daily basis about cuckolding I have also been
helping men and women from around the world hundreds of men I have counselled as well as couples that are in a cuckold relationship or the men are trying to figure out what to do about their feelings surrounding cuckold and most of them are married men this is a topic that I find fascinating but in some
instances I also find heartbreaking too because of this particular sexual fetish
has really destroyed some marriages it has caused some pain for men who really
don’t know what to do with these feelings because they don’t go away when
you have a cuckold sexual fetish it’s not something that disappears and if you
don’t learn how to manage it can really affect your life and absolutely
affect your relationship so I’m going to go into the idea of
a massive cock because no one really talks about this to the extent that I
think describes the personality or the issue at hand when we talk about
Cuckold Humiliation and domination
submissive cuckolding this is a man who enjoys his wife or wants his wife to
have sex with another man so that she can get pleasure from this man now it
can be while he’s in the room or if she goes out and then comes back and talks
about it, I have found that the real fantasy or the extreme fantasy would be
that he is involved in the cuckold situation so part of what his fantasy is
is that his wife is getting pleasure from this man usually, the man has a
larger penis and the reality is it doesn’t matter if the husband or the
cook has a smaller penis or not it’s this idea that this other man has a
larger penis sometimes they will say that they want the man to be a black man
with a larger penis and they also like the idea of being submissive now when
you talk about this particular cuck which I’m talking about the man or the
husband in life it doesn’t necessarily mean that he’s a submissive person and
in fact, many times he’s not a submissive person he’s someone who could be
successful businessperson and in quite a few of the cases this really is the how
to describe it this is how the person looks this is their character and so
what happens along the way and some of what I’ve learned is the fetish can
start where a man has had a girlfriend that may have cheated
in the past and instead of getting upset over it there was something about it
that turned him on it could also be that his wife had an affair or there’s
usually, some something in his life that triggers this particular episode and our
this particular fetish and what I have found is that it usually is something in
the past where a girlfriend has cheated the man and he was terribly hurt by it but
then somehow it translated into a type of a fetish and he may have tried it
with the girlfriend or he may not have and so let’s say that this happens and
then he gets married so now he’s married and he’s in this relationship with his
wife and he doesn’t tell her that he has this fetish and maybe for a time it
isn’t at the top of the list because he’s busy working he could be raising a
family but as time goes on and especially as a man gets older he’ll
find that he starts to become more interested again in the type of cuckold
relationship and some of the men I’ve counseled have slowly broken it to their
wife and some of the women I have gone along with it and to some extent it may
have seemed like it was okay for a time maybe it was but usually, the end result is
that she either falls in love with the man that she’s having this cuckold
relationship with or decides that she no longer wants to be with her husband
because she feels he’s pushed her to do something that she doesn’t really want
to do or she doesn’t actually go through with it but he continues to kind of push
her in the bedroom talk about it where she gets to the point where she doesn’t
want to have sex anymore or she’s just completely frustrated with this
the situation that’s one scenario another scenario would be that he
doesn’t tell her he kind of keeps it to himself for a long time he’s kind of
agonized over the fact that he wants to have this experience and he doesn’t know
how to break it to her a third scenario is he does tell her a
little bit she completely freaks out about it and then he knows he doesn’t
know what to do so let’s get back to the submissive part
of this because this really there’s two aspects of this that play a big role for
some of the men who want to have a cuckold relationship they want the
pressure to be off of them when it comes to sex so they’re either they’re either
feeling pressure to perform this can be a part of it too
the wife doesn’t initiate sex and they don’t really want to initiate it all the
the time they have a heightened sense of errata system where you know they say this is like the intellectual fetish well it’s true to a certain extent because
there’s this whole erotic fantasy world that they’ve created which is like a
a higher level of sex play so we have all of these things going on so some of the
men may have some erectile dysfunction performance anxiety
they’re not able to get an erection to maintain direction without thinking
about the cuckold they love their wife or their partner and they want her to be pleased so they don’t ever want her to really go off and cheat on them that’s not the thing they want to make sure that she doesn’t cheat on them, that’s where this whole thing backfires most of the time so they don’t
want her to cheat on him that they want her to get pleasure that he’s not able
to give her by another man and then maybe even come home and still be in
love with her husband and he can either you know have sex with her afterwards
because there’s the whole theory of you know him being the last one to
inseminate her some of this is true some of this isn’t I found a place into some
of the cuckold fantasy and I found it doesn’t play into some of the cuckolds
fantasy another aspect of it is a submission being submissive to his wife
this I have found to be a running theme is being submissive is too full because
it takes the pressure off of him to perform she’s the one who’s initiating
so he actually knows that she’s desiring him and there’s an element of eroticism
to the fact that she’s now controlling him and it can even go into a deeper
sense of using chastity I’ve had some couples which they actually when they ended up trying it had a lot of fun with it and it’s a suggestion that I’ll make is using chastity for the man so literally, she is controlling his orgasm and again there’s that element of advanced of raw decision to that where she’s locking his penis in this a chastity belt or penis cage and she holds the key and therefore she is controlling his orgasm so that could be an aspect of this submission.
submissiveness then there’s another element of humiliation where he likes to
be in the room with her and her the bowl they call it and be humiliated by him
watching her have sex with another man that has a bigger penis I don’t know I
see this in a couple different ways I see this as not necessarily pure
humiliation because there’s definitely other forms of it but more of a way of
him still controlling it without him being controlling and so there’s a real
psychological component to it nevertheless when this all plays out in
real life this is where the problem begins because it never really ends up being the way that a man would want it to be in real life and it boils down to this the
cuckold the husband wants his wife to want to do this and so sometimes
subliminally he’ll do things that hope that will push her to go and cheat or
he’ll do things to say oh you know when I talk to her in bed about that she
really was turned on by it so she really must be into it but the reality is it is
not a female-driven fetish it is a male-driven fetish and so whether the woman goes along with it or not it is still the man’s idea and that’s where the basic problem comes into this because of this particular fetish becomes so familiar to him that he doesn’t realize that to his wife it may be something that is upsetting to her
most of the women that I’ve worked with here seems to be a running comment of
if he really loved me why would he want me to have sex with another man that
would you know I would think that that would go against the fabric of our
relationship or our marriage and so with that being said she’s not really
understanding the idea that this is a fetish and by him turning it on her it
takes the pressure off of him that’s where this all gets really complicated
so if you’re a woman watching this you’re probably thoroughly confused – to
some point in some ways and what I would say to you is if this is something that
your husband is interested or something that he’s pushing you to do and he is more of authoritative guy and he more is more of a pushy man sometimes he’s asking for you to control him sexually meaning he doesn’t want to be in control of it he wants you to take over and control him
sexually and say hey you know enough of this nonsenseI’m going to put a chastity belt on you I’m going to you know punish you have you sit in the corner I’m going to spank you I’m going to you know do all these things to you and if you can get into that kind of role play with him for many of the men who have this cuckold
fetish that will satisfy them to a certain extent I mean they just really
want the woman’s attention and for her to take over this is what I found in
most of the couples that I’ve worked with and ultimately part of the solution
is rooted in her desiring him because that’s really what’s he what he
ultimately wants is her to desire him her to love him and her to sexually
control him so this has been my analysis of the honest truth that I know behind
this very interesting sexual fetish and I hope that I have shed some light on it
for you and give you some real solid facts about it please said send me an
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